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Roi Ezra's avatar

I’ve carried a rule with me:

Clarity without kindness is brutality.

Kindness without clarity is betrayal.

That’s why I struggle with the framing of “Don’t be yourself.”

In Dr. Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic’s model, maturity seems to mean limiting the self to fit external expectations. And I see the truth in it: context matters, and unfiltered authenticity can be reckless.

But as someone who paid the price of silencing myself for 10 years, I’ve come to a different line: maturity is holding onto the self while flexing form to fit context.

For me, the danger isn’t oversharing. It’s the slow erosion that happens when we leave our whole self at home.

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David Verhaag's avatar

Fantastic episode Jason!

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